The rate of divorce in America remains high, leaving many adult men and women alone, available and wondering how to maneuver on the playing field. D., offers advice gleaned from his own research and that of other experts to help you get back into dating mode.
After years of being in a relationship, putting yourself back in the singles market can be a daunting endeavor. After 19 years of waking up next to the same person, Yolanda*, a marketing consultant, suddenly found herself greeting mornings alone.
Recently divorced, she was overwhelmed by the mere thought of dating again.
While it's true that some people simply choose not to date, others want to but don't know how to go about it or can't overcome their negative self-thoughts.So how can those who are struggling with these obstacles successfully and healthfully re-enter the dating arena?First, it's important to set appropriate personal standards.In particular, will you play hard to get or be an easy catch?I call the manifestation of these standards one's "social price." The more you have to offer in a relationship, the more you can expect in return, thus increasing your appropriate social price.Factors that help determine your social price include your ability to bring desirable traits such as inner strength, kindness, intelligence, and affection to a relationship.