You’ve found a dating site you want to use, and you’ve created a profile, complete with your most flattering photos.The next stage is either to sit and wait to be contacted by a potential date, or to look through the site and proactively start sending messages to potential dates yourself.Surely, one of the things any online dater would want to know is what type of first contact message is most likely to draw a positive response.Should it be humorous, should it be factual, or should you just introduce yourself?Further, exactly how much should you say about yourself in this message?The Common-Sense Approach Here are three tips that may increase your chances of a reply to your first contact message: What the Research Says A study conducted by Schöndienst and Dang-Xuan (2011) examined which style of first contact message was most likely to receive a reply.The researchers carried out an ambitious analysis of 167,276 first-contact messages sent by 3,657 users.
Rather, the faster the reply to a message, the more likely it is that communication will continue (Fiore, Taylor, Xhong, Mendelsohn, and Cheshire, 2010). Are there gender differences in who is more likely to make first contact?
In their study, Hitsch, Hortacsu and Ariely (2010) found that: When it comes to responding, Fiore et al (2010) found that males replied to more first-contact messages than females (26 percent compared to 16 percent).
These gender differences may be accounted for in terms of).
Because reproduction poses a greater risk to females, they have evolved to be more cautious and judicious during interactions with males.
Other Factors Influencing First Contact Hitsch and colleagues (2010) also found that: them in terms of attractiveness.
In other words, those using online dating attempt to find the best and most attractive date they can instead of looking for someone similar to themselves in terms of attractiveness.