There are several important attributes women look at before saying yes to a date, with physical attractiveness being one of them, and if you happen to have a strong, muscular physique, you’re exactly what they’re looking for (even if they tell you otherwise).
A recent report published by The Guardian has found that women actually prefer stronger men, finding them generally more attractive compared to their less athletic peers. Taller and leaner folks scored better with women, but it turns out, it doesn’t even matter if you’re a little on the chunky side as long as you look strong.
Remember, if you ever get told that you look too muscular, just know that deep down, getting swole only makes you more desirable.
My problem is this: This wonderful man with whom I've shared some amazing moments and do share a phenomenal connection ... He's not merely out of shape or a hike and a swim away from fit, he's fat.
I've made a conscious effort to look past it ("it" being my own stupid, shallow, superficial, counterproductive reaction to the weight), but there it is, all of the time.
And this man just doesn't light my fire in that way.I'm attracted to nearly everything about him but his size. They will say to each other, "It's his fault, and it's disgusting; he must have no willpower; he must eat the wrong things; he must be repressing something; he must not respect himself." And what does the fat guy say? It might be great at first with some guy you don't like that much otherwise. A guy you don't like all that much anyway whom you don't like to fuck much either anymore.So he doesn't light my fire, and doesn't feed my ego in the company of strangers. If you are a fat man in America you cannot help noticing that people are freaked out about fat. He says, Yes, thank you for that astute observation, I have indeed noticed that I am fat. Insight is a complex computation; it can take days on our little computers. I hate myself even for admitting it; it's just so superficial. It has its paradoxes and corollaries as well -- we are freaked out about skinny, and we are freaked out about food, and the planet, and the body and money and exercise and power. So I suggest what you do is go in your backyard and sit quietly and meditate on the fact that you are not turned on by this fat man. If you come to the feeling that you have to end it, then end it. Maybe it's just some learning you have to do -- maybe you are not used to having sex in ways that are not automatic; maybe there would be some learning at first and then it would be automatic, just as it always was. And by the way, why are you in such a hurry lately? Besides, consider: The sex is great in the beginning lots of times. This is harder, of course, because we are freaked out about fat. Meditate on the fact that you like him very much but he doesn't turn you on. If you come to the feeling that you want to stay with him for a while more, then stay with him for a while more. If you come to both, then put each on an apothecary's scale, weigh them and choose the one that weighs a little more. Or maybe you meditate on it and it continues to intrigue you and so you stay with him for a while.